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How to Stop Self Sabotaging

Updated: Jun 28, 2023

Do you often find yourself taking one step forward and take two steps back? If so, you are not alone. Self-Sabotage affects millions, preventing them from reaching their potential. In this blog, we’ll explore self-sabotage, it’s causes and how RTT can help break free from it’s grip.

What is self-sabotage?

How to Stop self-sabotage so you can live your best life.

Self-sabotage can take many different forms, from procrastination, self-doubt, to addiction and self-destructive behaviors.

It can manifest in various areas of life, such as relationships, career, health, and personal growth.

For example, a person may self-sabotage their career by avoiding applying for the jobs or missing work deadlines.

In contrast, someone may self-sabotage their relationships by pushing people away or engaging in destructive behaviors, such as cheating or lying.

Self-sabotage can be a challenging pattern to break, as individuals may not be aware of the root cause of their behavior.

It is often a result of negative beliefs and thought patterns that individuals have developed over time. These beliefs can be deeply ingrained in a person’s psyche and can cause then to act against their own best interests.

Why do people self-sabotage?

There are many reasons why people engage in self -sabotage unconsciously.

· Fear and anxiety are often the driving forces behind self-sabotage.

For example, a person may not apply for a job they really want because they are afraid of rejection or failure. Similarly, someone may not pursue a relationship because they fear getting hurt or rejected.

· Some individuals fear the unknown or failure, holding themselves back.

· Others avoid success and responsibility, fearing the pressure that comes with it. (They may not want to be accountable for their actions or be afraid of the pressure that comes with success).

· Seeking attention or validation can stem from deep-rooted feelings of unworthiness. (People who engage in self-sabotage deep down may not feel that they are worthy of success or love and use self-sabotage behaviors to prove this to themselves).

· Trauma and negative experiences can create self-sabotaging beliefs. (People who have experienced trauma may develop negative thought patterns and beliefs that cause them to engage in self-sabotage, For example, a person who has experienced a traumatic event may believe that they are not worthy of success or happiness and may engage in behaviors that prove this to themselves).

How To Stop Self Sabotaging

Luckily overcoming self-sabotage is not only possible, it can be achieved in as little as 1-3 sessions.

With RTT I gently help my clients identify and address the root causes of negative patterns and behaviors. With specific tools we explore the unconscious beliefs and thought patterns that are driving these behaviors, and create new, positive behaviors and habits, and that how to stop self-sabotaging effectively, build self-confidence, and self-esteem and reach the goals and aspirations.

Imagine a life free from self-sabotage, where you confidently pursue your dreams.

By working with me you will develop a greater understanding of yourself and acquire skills that can change the way you feel about yourself and your life for good.


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